Sometimes it happens, during the wedding planning you realizes it's just not going to work out. It can be a very difficult decision to halt everything. But in the end, it's better to know it's time to end, than to go forward with the wedding knowing you'll end if afterwards. Just remember it's OK to end the relationship if it's not working. You may receive a backlash from some family members, but remember, it's your life and if it's not feeling right, you have the power to call off the wedding.
No one wants to tell their wedding guests it's off, but you have to. Here is a guide for how to call off the wedding with as much grace as possible.
If you've sent out Invitations or Save the Dates.
You'll want to send out an email or small cards to all your invited guests-
Dear _______,
We write to regrettably inform you that the wedding of Sally May Smith and Johnathan Richardson will no longer be taken place.
If the wedding is only a few weeks away and there is no time to mail a card to your guests.
You'll still want to send an email out to all your guests, however you'll need to call everyone to make sure they know. Break up the phone list and ask for help from your family and/or friends. The call does not have to be long, just a simple "I'm calling to let you know, regrettably the wedding of Sally and Jonathan has been called off. We sent out an email but we wanted to make sure you were aware"
If it's the day of the wedding
Take a deep breath. If you have your wedding dress on, take it off, put on comfortable clothes. You're going to need your family/friends today. Ask them to go to the ceremony site and let guests know the wedding will not be taking place today and that it has been cancelled. If all your family is in town, have a designated restaurant or cafe for them to meet at instead of the ceremony/reception location. They will still want to visit with each other.
A few days after the wedding you'll want to send out an email and or cards stating:
Dear _______,
We write to regrettably inform you that the wedding of Sally May Smith and Johnathan Richardson was called off last Saturday. We apologizes for the last minute change and all gifts that were sent early will be returned. We thank you for your support.
If you've called it off soon after the wedding takes place.
This one can be hard. You've come down from the wedding mania only to discover a mistake has been made. You two are not compatible and it's not going to work out. You don't need to send out an email to every single guest, but it you've been married for under 3 months you should return your wedding gifts.
With a note attached to the gift:
Dear _______,
We thank you so much for attending the weeding of of Sally and Jonathan. Regrettably it has not worked out and we are returning the lovely gift you sent us. We thank you for your love and support.
Remember, calling off a wedding can be one of the most difficult decisions you'll ever have to make. It takes a strong person to realized it's not working and it's not going to get better. Reach out to your family and friends for support during this time.
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